Sunday, June 17, 2018

Don't Let Difficult Times Define Your Life

It is sad that people let their struggles in life guide them and define their life....granted there is a time to be sad, upset and annoyed but don't let it define who you are and guide your life. Overcome it! Don't waste all of your time being upset, sad and annoyed. Get out there, do things and enjoy life!

This past year has been one of the most difficult times in my life. I will not say the most difficult because I have had some very difficult times but it has been very challenging. In the past I have had a good support system at my disposal. This time I had a support system but for the most of the time it was from afar so I had to deal with things on my own. It was not easy.

I moved to a new town, started a new job with pretty much no support system at all. No one to tell me things would be ok when I felt down. No one to tell me that I should not give up. Yes I had family and friends from afar and am so thankful for that but sometimes you need that support system where you are.
So when I say I did not have a support system in this post, I mean one right there, one to lean on where I was.

The entire move was not what I thought it would be. The cost was way more than I imagined leaving me in the hole and broke for quite some time.

The job was definitely not what I thought it would be. I did not make friends right away like i had in the past. I have never had trouble making friends but I did in this new place that I was hoping to call home.

I moved where my oldest son is and rented a home with him for a while thinking that we would do things together but, really that is unrealistic and I understand his need to have his own life but it was hard at first not being a huge part of that life. He does include me sometimes and that is amazing but not as much as I had hoped for at first. This would make me sad.

I have friends and some family in the new city area but the distance made it harder than I had thought. They are all at least an hour away from me so we have to really make plans to be able to spend time together which is difficult when we all have different schedules.

Things back home with my adult child that was left there were not great and my home there was not being taken care of either which was costing me money as well.

There were many times in the beginning that I just wanted to crawl in bed and stay there, weekends I did not want to do anything except feel sorry for myself because nothing was going as I had hoped. Things were desperate and dismal. I felt alone, lonely and defeated.

I did not give into those feelings though, I tried and tried to make plans on weekends when I did not work, If I could not find anyone to do things with I did things alone which was something new for me. Granted I was used to doing things on my own but I usually had my kids with me so was never really alone. All of the sudden I was alone, just me. I did not like it, but I did it.

I finally realized that my son needed his own life and did not let him actually living it hurt me anymore I simply tried to find one of my own in this new home. For a long time it was not working well and I really wanted to give up but,I kept going...

Work because progressively worse, you would think things would get better but they did not. ( the job is a later blog) I cried at work, I cried when I got home at night and I cried before I went. I would drive to work fighting back tears. I wanted to stay in bed and cry all day long but knew that I could not do that. I signed a contract and needed the job. There were many times though that I considered just throwing in the towel.

Things in Colorado also were not getting better, they were getting worse. Money was also getting progressively worse too. I felt lost, discouraged and extremely worried!

Instead of being depressed though I would find simple things to do such as go to the store after work and just walk around. I would also still find things to do on the weekends even if they were alone. I did not give myself time to feel sad.

Finally I did make a couple of friends at my new home and that made things much easier. I did lean on my support system in Colorado and New Mexico more too as well as the family I have on the other side of the city.

Now I am doing better, the job is over, I do things with friends sometimes, I have made it a point to get together with my cousin on the other side of the city once in a while...every month or two which helps a lot. My friend who lives next door is a great source of help too. Before work was done I had a support system which helped me make it through the difficult year.

I do get worried and distressed because the job hunt is not going well at all. My youngest kid has decided to no longer have anything to do with me. There are days when I want to just give up but, I am not going to let these difficult times define me. I am going to live life, enjoy things and move forward. I can't imagine how life would be if I had given into those difficult times.

My main point is that life can be hard, there are times you just want to give into the difficult times but, don't! Find ways to make it better, and if you can't make it better just keep doing things to keep busy so you don't have time to dwell on the things that are wrong with life. Don't let the difficult times define you, they are difficult times, not who you are.

Saturday, June 16, 2018

Moments Become Memories, Make Each Moment Memorable

     Looking back on my childhood I do not remember
the things my mom bought me. Well I do, but those things do not stand out in my mind as memorable. When my kids used to talk to me about memories they did not talk about the things they got, they talked about the memories we made. Some of them were even memories made out of negative moments.

     I remember when I was a kid my mom would make me clothes for my dolls. I remember her making them and thinking how special I felt that my mom took the time to sew doll clothes for me.

     As years pass by I recall less and less from my younger days but some memories do still stand out. I remember the times I traveled with my entire family  and the fun we had together. My grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and I would go on vacations together, camping and we had many gatherings at grandma and grandpas home. Those memories are some I hold close and dear to my heart.

    In my teen years and early adult years I visited my grandparents and remember playing marbles. Some of my happiest memories are of my grandpa and I teaming up and beating my mom and my grandma.

     Of course there are so many more fond memories from my childhood, those are just a few.

     My kids told me that they remember all the times they spent with their great grandma, grandma and me. They remember the fun we had going to Disneyland. The times we went to the park and they played and even the memories of us being stranded for hours on the freeway. They have talked about fond memories such as those. I am sure they have many more.

     When my kids were little I tried to make our time together memorable. I spent time with them so that they would look back on those memories fondly. Sometimes it was simply reading a book at the end of the day, the traditions we created at Christmas time and the moments that we just were together.

     I now have a young grandson who I am making what I hope are memorable moments. I enjoy spending time with him, reading to him and just being with him. I hope he looks back someday and remembers those times with grandma as fondly as I remember mine with my grandma and my kids remember with theirs.

    There are negative things in life that do make it difficult sometimes but I think those memorable times are the ones that we hold closest to our heats and at the end of the day those will be the times we cherish most of all.
   
      Every moment can't be memorable,there are some you simply forget and there are some you want to forget but it is important to make more memorable moments with those that you love than just moments in time.

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Adsense New Policies Sign In Trouble

     I went to check my adsense income tonight and found their new policies. I read them and was going to accept them but there is no link or tab to accept. I am tried to find contact information but they have nothing. I feel like I am going in circles.

    Does anyone know how on earth you sign the policies or is their their way of not paying?

     Here is a picture of what I see on my end. It offers me a way to sign out but no way to accept the policies but I have to so I can continue to earn.

     Please help if you can.

+adsense +policies +sign

     

Thursday, May 3, 2018

Squatters Leave a Mess

    The people who squatted in my house not only left it filthy but when they left the opened every door in the house, all windows and turned the heat up on high. The house is electric so the bill will be very high. While they lived there they ran the electricity bill up too. And since it is in my name I had to pay it. The squatters are responsible for nothing.

     They also had the nerve to take every light bulb in the house. Talk about losers. You move into someones house, live there for free, run up the utilities and then take the light bulbs. WOW.

     One of them also liked to punch walls and did a lot of damage to the walls.

     My house was always clean. I will show the pictures after the squatters were there. I just can't believe people live that way. It is just gross. Thankfully I have someone cleaning it up so will show the after shots too...

+squatters + Colorado
One of the least filthy areas of the house.


Car port, those are cigarette butts.

Dishes in the sink


Disgusting bedroom

Someone likes to hit walls

More wall damage


The livingroom








They even took the light bulbs! 


Squatters Have More Rights than Home Owner

      Yes the title is correct, squatters have more rights than a home owner, at least in Colorado they do. I never thought that was true until I had squatters of my own. Mine were a bit different than your run of the mill squatters but they were squatters none the less.

     Imagine you leave your house for the winter, upon your return you find people living there. You did not invite them, they broke in and took up residency in your home. They have a legal right to be there and you have to evict them.

     The run of the mill squatter is the person who enters a vacant home and takes up residency. Doesn't matter how they get into the home, once they move their stuff in and stay there they have possession of the home and the owner can't even charge them with trespassing.

    The owner has to actually evict the squatters, yes the owner who pays for the home, the utilities etc, has to evict people who break in and live there. The squatters are given 3 days to get out.

     It does not always end there though, if the squatters decide they do not want to leave the owner has to take legal action. Yep the owner has to pay to get them out of their home.

     I was shocked to learn of this, appalled and disgusted that the criminal has more rights than the property owner. But then that is how it is with our society today...pitiful.

    Now on to my squatters...mine is a different type of scenario but they were unwelcome people in my home so squatters nonetheless.

     I moved to Arizona and not being quite ready to sell my home in Colorado allowed my youngest child to live there. A family of squatters took advantage  and gave him this hard luck story, then without my consent moved into my home. When I said it was time for them to get out I was told that I had to evict them. I was livid but had them served with notice. I gave them 7 days to get out. Thankfully they were out in 7 days but they left the house a mess. I cannot believe anyone can actually live in the filth they lived in. But then they were squatters...

    Please if you have your own squatters look this up and seek legal advice. I am not a lawyer, I am only going on my own experience.

Sunday, April 15, 2018

Don't Go With Sprint if You Want Good Service: Inadequate is Ok By Them!

     I used to have a cell phone contract but went with Straight Talk and was totally pleased not having a contract. But my son went with Sprint because he wanted an iPhone, He asked me to take one of the phones but I did not really want to...well the lousy service and high cost is why.

     Sprint has constant dropped calls, our texts do not always go through, there are areas where they are not deliverable. This is in the city where my son was promised great service. So we have been trying to cancel the service because it is so substandard...

     Tonight we were told that the signal is fair by tech support. I was sent to customer service and we were told by a manager that the service is not inadequate enough to allow us to cancel the contract. Hmmm so what is inadequate enough? I mean that is a far cry from great.... what they promised!

     So for Sprint inadequate is good enough, fair signal is ok. It is fine if the people you call can't hear you or calls are dropped as a norm. Texts don't send and oh yea, the GPS only works if you have a cell signal. They charge a huge monthly fee for bad service and they are ok with that! They wont' even discount their fees.

    We are stuck since they do not care that their service is extremely lousy, so once the contract is up we will not renew but then maybe they don't care...they get you to pay a huge amount of money for poor service..not caring that you are upset even when you tell them you will not renew.....they must make enough that they do not need repeat service.

 

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Review: Bahama Bucks

     When I first tried Bahama Bucks I thought it was ok. I was not super impressed but my mom and aunts love it. They make sure to go every time they are in the Mesa/Phoenix Arizona area.

With Cream
     So I decided when we were in Mesa a year ago to give it another try. I learned that I LOVE Bahama Bucks and the Bahama Mama Rama.

     What is a Bahama Mama Rama you ask?? Well it is a different kind of shaved ice treat. You get ice cream and then the shaved ice and flavoring and then you get a cream on top of the shaved ice. At first I thought it was the cream I did not like but, the other day I accidentally had them put it on and I determined that I love it!
Without Cream

     I have moved to the Surprise Arizona area and sadly we do not have a Bahama Bucks nearby...I love it so much though that I make it a point to get one whenever I am in the Mesa or Phoenix area. I have to drive an hour but it is worth it.

     I discovered a location that is only 33 miles form me in Laveen, AZ so now I go there when I am not taking a trip to Mesa. Yes I make a special trip to get a Bahama Mama Rama. It is that good! I enjoy it that much!

     I think my favorite location is on Southern in Mesa though because you put the little umbrella in the post outside showing your love of their treats.

     I need to try some of their other wonderful looking treats but I am a creature of habit and since I have to go so far to get one I tend to get what I know I love.

     If you are ever in the Phoenix area be sure to check out Bahama Bucks and try a Bahama Mama Rama!!

+Bahama Bucks
+Bahama Mama Rama